Marriage : Who Shud You Choose ?

^{Marriage : Who Shud You Choose ?
2} So Abraham said to the oldest servant of his house, who ruled over all that he had, “Please, put your hand under my thigh, ³ and I will make you swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell; ⁴ but you shall go to my country and to my family, and take a wife for my son Isaac.” (Gen 24:2-4)

¹⁴ Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? (2 Cor 6:14)

²² He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
      And obtains favor from the LORD.(Pr 18:22)

One of my greatest passions in life...something that developed in me after being 8 years (this year) in marriage to my beautiful and God fearing wife is relationships in families...esp Husband and Wife.

Face it, Holy Matrimony is a slice of what the marriage between Jesus and His bride would be..2 shall become 1...We see in Scripture that marriage never meant to be dictatorial but loving and submissive and most of all REWARDING...I always believe and know as much as I am called by God..so is my wife..not just to bear me children and stay at home..but it is my duty to pray and encourage her to pursue God's call upon her life too. 

I remember reading the story off Smith Wigglesworth..a great man of God. Many would not remember that it was his wife, Polly that taught him to read and her ministry was full on way before his. She even told him that she may be his wife, but she was also called by God. 

When I was seeking for a companion, I was looking for a few things ..of course she must be beautiful, and more importantly was she must be so in love with God and in the ministry too...overall, she must be the one God had in mind for me. Why ? 

Answer is simply this : How can two walk together unless they agree ? If both are always on different page of the book of doing life and never able to agree on anything...how to become 1 ? ...Marriage is NOT just about SEX..if it is just about SEX then we are being self-fish and it is not love but LUST !. Outer appearance is important..but as you age, appearance matter less. But I've seen a godly woman grows more and more beautiful ..whereas a woman that has no God and live life anyhow just gets weary and down. 

Answer 2 :- Do you value your faith ? Faith and love is about giving and not just receiving. Sure love is agape (unconditional)..but it has to be a little give and take too (phileo)..sometimes in giving you have to give-up what you want for yourself...but sometimes you have to take too. That's the fun of life. Faith is like that isn't it..We love God wholeheartedly..but we too want Him to bless us too ! Without agreement how to get prayers answered ?

Answer 3 :- She is my joint heir...without my wife standing with me...how to do anything ? Can you imagine needing support...yet even those at home just don't support you ? Till this day, others have said no to me..but my wife always says yes. 

If you value your life and your salvation, don't go looking for unbelievers..God gave that principle not just for marriage but relationships ...don't even marry believers that cannot lift you up when you are down..Missionary minded relationships...meaning you think your love can bring your partner to Christ is so fool hardy. And marriage is forever...divorce is sin.

What happens if your marriage is all wrong today ?

Ans :- Don't blame anybody..God's word is 2000 years old. You have to make it work. If your spouse still wants to love you and be with you...come to God with repentance..and determine to love your spouse too. Find what works for him or her..not just for yourself...

Everyone has a love bank. .and a need to be loved and appreciated.  Just like our bank accounts..the more we put in as savings, the more interest we get. The more we withdraw, the lesser there is in the long run.  Many relationships run into debts and despair because we've stretched the patience and loyalty of our spouses to way over limit. We taken too much and taken their love for us for granted..We've abused their trust. We think Oh they would understand..or they SHUD understand..Now selfishness kills relationships..What about married couples that cannot cut their purse strings from their parents and stand with their spouse even when under pressure ? Who are you married too ? your mother in-law or father in-law or your spouse ? Stop making withdrawals..and start PAYING BACK..Start investing again ! Put love back into the love bank of your spouse.

SOme prefer gifts...others a compliment..others just your presence and time..find what works..and make that commitment to be consistent..don't be robot about it..make it spontaneous but make it regular too. 

Love your spouse today more than you did yesterday !

For the harvest

Edwin