Its something God just said to me while reading a status of a Pastor on facebook. When we based our live on the Law (the last 3/5 of the Commandments)...alone and forget that the mercy giver is on the mercy seat above it, we based our faith on performance and not relationship. There's no grace in performance / works. There's only grace in relationship because JESUS IS not your healer..but your healing..not your provider, but your provisions (providence)..not the giver but IS.

esp parents with kids (I know I got 2 boys). Nagging changes nobody.
Can you imagine God picked on every mistake we made ? on the other hand He did not. He loved us inspite of (Romans 5:5). Keeps on forgiving us today.
Grace is all about being in Him..not working to get more of Him. Thank God He did not picked on us. So being Christians (little Christ), that's how we shud behave too. I think Rom 13, love does not harp on past issues (keeps records)..Yah..I hope this helps.